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Mind Over Mess
By Wanda Urbanska
How clearing out
the clutter in your space
can help you clear your
head, too.
When I lived with clutter, I
felt like my whole world was
disorganized — and that I
couldn’t do anything else
with my life until I sorted
out the mess,” says Desiree
Fernandez, a 24-year-old
student in Minneapolis,
Minn. “Being surrounded by
clutter was like getting the
car stuck in mud: I kept
spinning my wheels trying to
get out, but I could never
get unstuck.”
Things changed, however,
when Fernandez moved in with
her partner, who insisted on
a clutter-free house. At
first, Fernandez resented
it. “Initially, I started
cleaning up my clutter just
to keep the peace at home,”
she recalls. “But the more I
organized, the better I
felt. I felt less bogged
down, and I had more time to
be productive and creative.
When I lived with clutter
before, it weighed on my
shoulders, like a constant
burden. Getting my space
cleaned up wound up being
such a relief.”
Fernandez’s story is a
testament to the stressful
toll clutter can take on the
psyche. “There’s a strong
connection between physical
clutter and mental clutter,”
says Cindy Glovinsky, MSW,
an Ann Arbor, Mich.–based
licensed psychotherapist and
author of
Making Peace with the Things
in Your Life (St.
Martin’s Press, 2002). “For
most people, the more
clutter you have, the more
depressed you’re likely to
feel; the less energy you
have, the less focus you
have. The clutter on the
outside makes you feel more
mentally disorganized.”
Luckily, clearing your
clutter can have a powerful
— and positive — effect on
your state of mind. When you
tackle your clutter, insists
author Karen Kingston in her
book
Clear Your Clutter with Feng
Shui (Broadway
Books, 1999), you will enjoy
more harmony, energy and
mental clarity in your life.
The Power of Clutter
But how can something as
seemingly inert as clutter
have such a huge impact on
our mental state? Perhaps
it’s because clutter
(derived from the Middle
English word clotter,
which means “to coagulate”)
clogs our perceptions of
what’s possible in a given
space, and restricts our
impressions of our available
choices — or even of our own
identity.
Many experts suggest that
clutter is a physical
manifestation of stuck
energy. “Everything around
you, especially your home
environment, mirrors your
inner self,” writes
Kingston. Conversely and
simultaneously, your inner
self is reflected in your
surroundings. It’s your
basic vicious cycle, she
explains: “Clutter
accumulates when energy
stagnates, and, likewise,
energy stagnates when
clutter accumulates. So the
clutter begins as a symptom
of what is happening with
you in your life and then
becomes part of the problem
itself, because the more of
it you have, the more
stagnant energy it attracts
to itself.”
Yet clutter is more than
just too much disorganized
stuff in too small a space.
It can also refer to items
you do not use or love
(clothes you haven’t worn in
years, the unused toaster
oven you got for Christmas)
or projects that remain
unfinished (at work, at home
or in your personal life).
This type of clutter often
evokes “a whole host of
negative feelings,” says
Wisconsin–based feng shui
and decluttering consultant
Andrea Marina. These can
range, she notes, from
feelings of failure for
perpetually lagging behind,
to pangs of guilt over
unreturned phone calls or
neglected relationships.
Even those of us who are not
chronically disorganized can
fall victim to clutter at
certain times — when we move
or become depressed because
of a death, divorce or
illness, for example. Or we
may be well organized in one
realm of our lives (at work,
say) but disorganized in
another. Wherever clutter
turns up in our lives,
though, we likely stand to
gain a healthy dose of
clarity by tackling it.
Reclaiming Your Space
Marina begins the
decluttering process by
having her clients consider
the cost of their current
clutter load. Specifically,
she encourages them to ask
themselves: To what
degree is clutter bogging me
down mentally, spiritually
and emotionally?
“Once clients perceive and
acknowledge what clutter is
costing them,” Marina
explains, “they tend to be
much more motivated to do
the work.”
From there, Marina explores
her client’s goals: What
higher purpose can
decluttering help him or her
attain? What changes does
this person most want to see
in his or her life: More
spontaneity? Peace? Joy?
“Once those questions are
answered,” she says, “we
ask, ‘How can we create that
in the physical space?’”
In a typical first session,
Marina works with clients
for six hours in a
concerted, distraction-free
decluttering marathon. And
she starts not in the
obvious public spaces like
the living room, kitchen or
foyer, but in a space that
ignites the decluttering
process from the inside out:
the bedroom. “Studies show
that what you’re thinking
when you go to sleep affects
the quality of your sleep
and your mood when you wake
up,” she says. “If your last
thoughts are feelings of
self-derision and being
overwhelmed, that’s not
good.”
While you may need to set
aside an entire day to
tackle a room-size space
that’s consumed with
clutter, you can work your
way up to such a task by
taking some baby steps
first. You might begin with
a bedside table or dresser
top, for example — or even
with something as small as
your purse. (See “Clutter
Cutters!" below, for
ideas and inspirations.)
Of course, once you’ve
successfully decluttered,
the real challenge is to
keep the clutter from
reaccumulating. “I try to do
a little bit every day,”
says Cecile Andrews, author
of
Slow Is Beautiful: New
Visions of Community,
Leisure and Joie de Vivre
(New Society, 2006).
Andrews commits to five
minutes of decluttering in
her Seattle office every
afternoon when her energy is
at its nadir. “I tell
myself, ‘All you have to do
is five minutes.’”
It may help to think of
clutter clearing as both a
time- and
sanity-conservation
strategy. “The most commonly
cited cause of clutter is
lack of time,” says
Glovinsky, “because one of
the things people do when
they get rushed is stop
putting stuff away. But
while you may save 10
seconds not hanging up your
coat, you’ll waste a lot
more time looking for it
later.”
Seen from this perspective,
it’s easy to understand how
reducing the clutter in your
life can help clear your
mind — and also help reopen
your life to the things that
matter most.
Wanda Urbanska is the
host and co-producer of the
Simple Living with
Wanda Urbanska television series, which
appears on PBS stations
around the country. For more
information, visit
www.simplelivingtv.net.
Clutter Cutters!
Some tops on dealing
with specific kinds of
clutter that may plague you:
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If clutter tends to
accumulate in your
office, try staunching
the flow by immediately
separating papers when
they arrive. Put junk
mail into a recycling
bin, set nonurgent items
in one stack or folder,
and place those needing
immediate attention in
another.
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To organize items in
your office,
psychotherapist Cindy
Glovinsky, MSW,
recommends using colored
file folders and marking
them with a few key
words in black felt-tip
pens.
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If you don’t know
what goes where in your
home, try storing items
nearest to where they
will be used. For
instance, instead of
putting table linens in
the towel closet, tuck
them into a dining-room
buffet.
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If you have clutter
in your clothes closet,
systematically dispose
of the clothes you don’t
wear. Karen Kingston,
author of
Clear Your Clutter with
Feng Shui
(Broadway Books, 1999),
notes that most people
wear 20 percent of their
wardrobe 80 percent of
the time.
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